Hubbie? Wifey? C'mon, get real.

A lot of people often ask me, "When are you guys getting married?" (Nate and I) I respond, "We're waiting until after we get our education." We've been together for over 5 and a half years but waiting patiently. I know there are a lot of other couples out there waiting like us, and I totally commend you on that. I know first hand how difficult that may be, especially living in times like these... But one thing that really bothers me is when I see the words "hubbie", or "wifey" thrown around like a darn beach ball all over the internet when those people saying it aren't even married. I see this a lot, particularly on Facebook. Like really? C'mon...That word ACTUALLY means something to those who appreciate it's meaning! The words are so watered down that people don't realize the true meaning of having the privilege to call your significant other your "husband or wife." When you are  able to it is a beautiful thing.

So some of you may think, "Oh well it's not that big a deal." My response? ....YES IT IS. Marriage for me is a bonding physically, emotionally, and above all spiritually between myself, my significant other, and God. God did not take the concept of marriage lightly, he was overjoyed to hear two lovers came together in flesh and soul. The Song of Songs 4 describes how a soon to be husband felt the first time he laid eyes upon his future bride: 

"How beautiful you are my darling!

Oh, how beautiful!

Your eyes behind your veil are doves,

Your hair is like a flock of goats

descending from Mount Gilead...."

"...Your lips are like a scarlet ribbon"

"...Your neck is like the tower of David, 

built with elegance..."

"All beautiful you are my darling....there is no flaw in you."

The scripture goes on and on, and it's very beautiful. To be married is a blessing and people need to realize how irreverently they use it. If your relationship was founded on true love and a deep faith, then you really would have gotten married. Not to be mean, but hey...if you aren't married, don't play like you are. It's just plain rude. Yeah, i get it you guys say you're in "love", but true love means commitment. True love means 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. 

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast,

it is not proud. It does not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered,

it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

So be kind to others who are married or planning on getting married. Don't use words with beauty and true meaning just to try to make other people think you guys are serious. If you are, you will get married. If you're not, don't say my "hubbie" or "wifey." Period.  It bothers me because I don't even know if people will realize that I'm ACTUALLY married when I write my "husband" over the internet. (Because no, I wouldn't write "hubbie") The word is, like I said, thrown around like a beach ball. It's like a piece of gum stuck to my shoe that I can't get rid of. LOL. But seriously people, just save those words for those who've walked down the isle and earned that privilege. 

That's the end of my little rant lol